By Tequila Cheatham McCray
Ever heard of the old saying: “You can talk to yourself but, don’t answer back,”? Answering yourself back would imply some type of mental instability, and would make people uncomfortable when you are around. What others think about you is not of importance, though. It is common to have conversations with self. Sometimes it is good to hash out mental chaos and clutter within the mind in order to make space for healthy thoughts.
It is so easy to tell yourself, “You can’t do that,” “That will only happen in your dreams,” or even worse, “I am such a failure.” You have told yourself over and over how much you stink but, how often do you feed yourself with positive words of affirmation? Everywhere you turn, there will be someone else you will compare yourself to, which will only water your self-doubt. There will always be someone else doing a bit more than you but, so what.
Remind yourself that you can do just as much as the next person, and if you cannot, don’t put so much pressure on yourself to where it creates an environment of stress. If you “Water what you want to grow; dehydrate what you want to wither away,” you will begin to find yourself shedding off dead weight. The thoughts you believe to be true play a major role in your work life, how you interact with others, and even down to the little words you may say in a simple conversation. It also has a major effect on your productivity levels, or lack of thereof.
Tell yourself the truth but make sure it is your truth. Make sure that whatever you see in the mirror is not a mere reflection of pain and fear rather courage and self-discovery. No one should be able to tell about you more than you can. If you’ve been told by others that you will never amount to anything, focus on what you know is your strong areas.
Create a personal mantra, and put it somewhere you can see it each day. Repeat it whenever the overwhelming, negative thoughts attempt to take over your mind, every morning when you awake, and each night before going to bed. You see, when you keep repeating messages in your head, you will start to believe them. If you’re constantly spewing words of hate and disempowerment, you will believe that you are powerless. If you aim to be the best worker, parent, entrepreneur, follower, artist etc., speak with conviction every day of your life, then act on it!
Start using the power of yes!
“Yes! I can make a huge sale today!”
“Yes! I can get through this!”
“Yes! I can be finished everything at a set time.”
“Yes! I can grind for 6 more hours after working 12 hours already!”
You are powerful. Start believing it.
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