Reasons to Remove Family from Your Social Media

By Tequila Cheatham

“Andre Gray, who was credited for the invention of social media when he created the first Electronic Press Kit, (EPK) started a revolution in technology.” Without his release of the first EPK in 1995, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and others would not exist. Initially, the EPK was created for the sole purpose of making music become digital. Nowadays, people use social media for a variety of reasons such as to stay in contact with people from high school or college college, for business purposes, to make new friends with those from different walks of life, and to remain in contact with extended family members.

Although social media can be of good use, and keep people tuning in, it can also be irritating, in particular, when it comes to having immediate family on your page. People are abandoning the idea of calling up family members and friends on the telephone and using social media as a way to stay in touch. There are, indeed, some perks to having family on your pages. For example, if you’ve recently had a major accomplishment, social media is a great way to make an announcement to everyone simultaneously without feeling the guilt of telling one person over the other first. It is convenient in that sense but, it seems there are more drawbacks than benefits. Here is a list of reasons why you should consider removing your family from your social media platforms:

  1. They use social media to as a reason not to show love in person, on the phone, or to show artificial love.
  2. It encourages disconnection. When was the last time you’ve heard that person’s voice or listened to them breathing?
  3. You can’t be your full self. You may have really conservative grandmothers or gossipy cousins who like to jump to conclusions based on your posts. You find yourself barely on your page because you don’t want to say the wrong thing to piss off some of them, or to be the center of conversation at a family gathering…Well, at least i you’re not a confrontational person anyway.
  4. You don’t want to see your siblings talking negative about another member in public, or promoting the fact they are doing illegal activities to get by.
  5. If you have a business, and the family is not your first cheerleaders or supporters, you will be disappointed about their lack of support, and begin to question their care for you.
  6.  Some of them are TOO active on your page. They comment on every pic and status update when they should find something else to do with their time.
  7. They use your page to pry and be nosy.

Family is a controversial issue on social media whether they are biological or in-laws. You may find yourself calling a family member only for them not to answer but to see them writing on their Facebook wall. For those family members who give you some form of substance on their pages, who motivate you, and make you feel like they are nourishing you in some type of way, sure, keep them. For the family members who are artists and entrepreneurs of some form, sure, keep them on your page to support their latest endeavors. For others ask yourself why you continue to store them in your contacts on your pages but not in each other’s phone?Have you ever wondered whether they would call if they were not on your social media pages? It seems as if people are using as a way of saying they get a chance to see you on a daily basis, which is not true. Yes, they are able to see some of your accomplishments and moods but unless you’re the type to post every time you think, feel, or do something (Oh, they exist out there!), they don’t know who you really are, and vice versa. They just know the person on the page because that’s who they connect with every time they log in. Let’s try unplugging from social media to have meaningful experiences with each other in real life. Not being on social media forces us to make real time for the people we care about instead of making excuses. We are so connected that we’re disconnected. Instead of writing on each other’s statuses from the next room, try having an actual conversation. You’ll be amazed at how much you can learn one another in actuality.


Do you agree, or disagree?

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“Who Invented Social Media?” Retrieved from https://www.quora.com/Who-invented-social-media

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Six Reasons to Take a Break from Social Media

Six Reasons to Take a Break from Social Media

By Tequila Cheatham


Let’s face it: We all enjoy the pleasure of scrolling and posting onto to Facebook. We are entertained by how others are living their lives, whether good or bad. We like communicating about the latest trends and teaching one another about our experiences. We also like to post selfies of when we are feeling our best selves; but, the truth is we need a break from social media sometimes. Here are six reasons why we all should fast from social media:

  1. To give our spirits a break. What we allow into our spirits via our five senses becomes apart of our energy for the day. Allowing toxicity into the mind will ultimately leak into the soul.
  2. To go do something more productive. Social media takes up a lot of time. Posting, checking on loved ones, responding to inbox messages, and commenting for pleasure will make hours go by, and, a long leftover list of things to do.
  3. To give your followers a chance to miss you. If we are constantly posting, people will expect to see something in their newsfeed from you everyday. Just like the old saying goes: “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.”
  4. To spend time doing things we are passionate about, or to discover our passion! Social media can be a distraction. We become so absorbed into how others are living their passions that we find ourselves comparing and living vicariously through them which brings us to our next reason…
  5. To live your life the old fashion way without having to prove to others that you visited the highest paying restaurant with pictures to prove it. Before there was social media, people enjoyed life joyously without having to gloat or post about every single thing done throughout the day.
  6. To be of use to someone. There are many children who need mentors, homeless shelters to donate time, and senior citizen homes that can use some entertainment. The accumulation of hours spent in one week on social media can be used to give back to those who need it.

Of course, using social media has its perks especially for business purposes. Some people post so much they should consider becoming social media managers and get paid for their activity. It is necessary to take a break from the internet overall whether one day, three days, a week, or even months to remind ourselves that life exists outside of social media. If we are not careful and monitor the time spent scrolling and posting, not only will we find ourselves losing sight of things that matter most, we’ll find ourselves putting on an act for our internet friends and family each time we log in. Unplug.


Spoken Word & Fellow Poets


I’ve always been the bashful, shy type. I was always the quiet one who studied everyone else actions, and laughed to myself when things were funny. Being in Junior Reserves Officers Training Corps, or JROTC, encouraged speech. Overtime, I became a commander belting out moves. By the end of senior year, I had somewhat come from out of my shell.


I’ve been writing poetry at a very young age. I always wanted to be on stage whether I was singing, acting, or any type of performance arts. Although I had dreams of being a performer, I didn’t have the guts to do it. “I’m an artist, and I’m sensitive about my work,” has got to be one of the most profound quotes for the writer. Out of fear of my work being rejected, I was bashful about getting on stage. But, fear had never stopped me.

When I did my first spoken word performance during Love Jones Sundays in 2009, I was nervous, but not as much as I thought I would be. Turned out, once I was on stage, I became one with the energy of the audience, and just wanted my words to be heard. More importantly, I wanted someone to feel me on what I had to say.

I’ve had the honor of being in the presence of some awesome spoken word poets in the DMV who have inspired me the past couple of years. The more I venture out, the more Poets I meet; and I’m happy to stay connected to them through social media. They are making careers out of spoken word, and I’m working on doing the same.

Last night was my first time getting back on the mic since October 2013. Not only did it feel good, I was happy to know some people could relate. I’m always happy when I’m not the only on in the room feeling the way I feel. It lets me know I’m not the only crazy in the room.lol

Here are some the Poets I keep in touch with, and with time, this list will expand. It’s time to meet some women Poets!lol The men are running the Poetry scene!


Dueces & Hearts

Jae October spitting words for UDC English Department

Jae October spitting words for UDC English Department

Pages d. Matam one of my favorite Poets in the DMV

Pages d. Matam one of my favorite Poets in the DMV


I love Komplex swag and humor. He puts on for the ladies.lol


I happen to admire Bomani’s music. It hits the soul, it’s real, and he’s a cool kat.


Showing some Poet LOve for Pages d. Matam at Bus Boys & Poets