Kid Again


By Tequila Cheatham McCray

I want to be
A kid again.
No pressure
To do everything
Just wake up
Winging it.
No worries of
Losing weight,
Just eating,
What life has
To offer.
No judgements,
Only curious
About the color
Of leaves
In the fall,
Playing with dolls,
And basketball.
No political correctness
Just, free
To be
In a world that forbids
Without calling
It a crime.
Willingness to learn
Without information
Spoiling the fun.
I want to run,
And chase
In a dress
And sneakers.
Trip over
Loose shoe strings
And cry
Not because of pain
Not because the scrape
Is ugly
And everyone will see
And make fun of me
But because someone
Will be there to help
Pick up the pieces
I left on the ground
After realizing
I have many more times
In life to get it right.

Be Creative

By Tequila Cheatham


I knew the reason ‘why’ I wanted to homeschool my child: I wanted to be in control of what was being instilled in his mind the for the most important stages in his life. I did not want him to have the social pressure at such a young age; and, we with the negative media images in the news about the neglect in daycares, I did not to risk endangering my child.

When first deciding how to teach my son, it was important to structure it similar to what children were studying in school, as well as make it more hands-on to encourage a combination of education and entertainment. We did reading, writing, arithmetic, as well as chemistry experiments, science, human anatomy & health, financial empowerment, physical activity, Spanish language, meditation, Black history, culinary arts, and even went on field trips. Each day, there was a new agenda. We didn’t do everything in one day because I did not want him to feel bombarded and discouraged.

We wrote sight words all around the place so he could learn to start recognizing words. We used flashcards to count to 100. We even took trips to the library and museums to expand his imagination. What I’ve is the importance of being creative which motivates your child’s learning abilities. No one wants to do the same monotonous routines everyday. It is presumably one of reason many schools ail at grasping students attention long enough to pick-up a subject.

Learning should be fun, not looked upon as a chore. Encouraging the use of the imagination and applying knowledge is not something to be taken lightly. Afterall, these beginning stages will determine the rate and willingness your child will have once he transitions into public or private school, if that is plan. What homeschooling does is allow your child to be more open minded and free-flowing. The one-on-one interaction is not only effective, but it allows your child to bond with you as his creator and teacher.

Homeschooling allows the world to be your child’s classroom; so, let him explore and discover. You never know who you’re raising.

Image from homeschool-life.com

Things To Do To Bond With Your Child

By Tequila Cheatham


      I always say: My son is the bestfriend to the little girl that lives in me. I can be a goofy person sometimes but, to him, I’m a comedian. While in the womb, I found different ways for us to connect. I would listen to relaxing music such as jazz or Chinese instrumentals, and could feel him gracefully swimming in my belly. I would have conversations with him as if he was in my arms. My son and I have done many fun things together which made our bond even stronger. We’ve done activities such as:

  1. Sing and Dance (our favorite)
  2. Cook
  3. Meditate/Pray
  4. Exercise
  5. Play with toys
  6. Card Games
  7. Board Games
  8. Taking walks
  9. The Park
  10. Outdoor/indoor movie night
  11. Food/ice cream Dates
  12. Sports of all types
  13. Read books
  14. Research questions about their animals
  15. Building a forte from sofa pillows
  16. Laugh
  17. Attend a local fair
  18. Chase squirrels and birds
  19. Color/painting in coloring books
  20. Visit an aquarium
  21. Kite flying
  22. science experiments
  23. feed the birds outside
  24. Hide-and-seek
  25. Take a road trip to the next state!

This is more of a general list of things to do with your kid, and they are also things you can do with your mate! There is only a slight difference between hanging out with your mate versus your kid(s). Your child may not be willing to walk around the neighborhood in the hot sun, but there is always something fun to do.  All of these can be exciting for you and your child as long as it is not looked upon as an extra chore. We all require time to connect and strengthen our bonds no matter the age or gender. Recreation builds imagination and releases stress that is built up on a daily basis at home, work, and school. No matter how busy our lives may be, we have to remember to be a kid with our kids sometimes. When they become adults, they will look back on the quality time spent together and will want to continue on with that friendship and connection. What better way to experience life and adventure other than with the people they love. Eventually, they will pass down their adventurous nature to their own children someday which will, ultimately, create a chain reaction of free spirited human beings.

What are some things you enjoy doing with your child?