Reasons to Remove Family from Your Social Media

By Tequila Cheatham

“Andre Gray, who was credited for the invention of social media when he created the first Electronic Press Kit, (EPK) started a revolution in technology.” Without his release of the first EPK in 1995, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and others would not exist. Initially, the EPK was created for the sole purpose of making music become digital. Nowadays, people use social media for a variety of reasons such as to stay in contact with people from high school or college college, for business purposes, to make new friends with those from different walks of life, and to remain in contact with extended family members.

Although social media can be of good use, and keep people tuning in, it can also be irritating, in particular, when it comes to having immediate family on your page. People are abandoning the idea of calling up family members and friends on the telephone and using social media as a way to stay in touch. There are, indeed, some perks to having family on your pages. For example, if you’ve recently had a major accomplishment, social media is a great way to make an announcement to everyone simultaneously without feeling the guilt of telling one person over the other first. It is convenient in that sense but, it seems there are more drawbacks than benefits. Here is a list of reasons why you should consider removing your family from your social media platforms:

  1. They use social media to as a reason not to show love in person, on the phone, or to show artificial love.
  2. It encourages disconnection. When was the last time you’ve heard that person’s voice or listened to them breathing?
  3. You can’t be your full self. You may have really conservative grandmothers or gossipy cousins who like to jump to conclusions based on your posts. You find yourself barely on your page because you don’t want to say the wrong thing to piss off some of them, or to be the center of conversation at a family gathering…Well, at least i you’re not a confrontational person anyway.
  4. You don’t want to see your siblings talking negative about another member in public, or promoting the fact they are doing illegal activities to get by.
  5. If you have a business, and the family is not your first cheerleaders or supporters, you will be disappointed about their lack of support, and begin to question their care for you.
  6.  Some of them are TOO active on your page. They comment on every pic and status update when they should find something else to do with their time.
  7. They use your page to pry and be nosy.

Family is a controversial issue on social media whether they are biological or in-laws. You may find yourself calling a family member only for them not to answer but to see them writing on their Facebook wall. For those family members who give you some form of substance on their pages, who motivate you, and make you feel like they are nourishing you in some type of way, sure, keep them. For the family members who are artists and entrepreneurs of some form, sure, keep them on your page to support their latest endeavors. For others ask yourself why you continue to store them in your contacts on your pages but not in each other’s phone?Have you ever wondered whether they would call if they were not on your social media pages? It seems as if people are using as a way of saying they get a chance to see you on a daily basis, which is not true. Yes, they are able to see some of your accomplishments and moods but unless you’re the type to post every time you think, feel, or do something (Oh, they exist out there!), they don’t know who you really are, and vice versa. They just know the person on the page because that’s who they connect with every time they log in. Let’s try unplugging from social media to have meaningful experiences with each other in real life. Not being on social media forces us to make real time for the people we care about instead of making excuses. We are so connected that we’re disconnected. Instead of writing on each other’s statuses from the next room, try having an actual conversation. You’ll be amazed at how much you can learn one another in actuality.


Do you agree, or disagree?

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Winning Wednesdays: Act Like A Success, Think Like A Success

We all have different definitions of success. For some, success may mean financial wealth; and, to others it may mean having a family, or even being spiritually liberated. For me, it means all of the aforementioned.

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, (2004) success is defined as: “favorable or desired outcome 2: the gaining of wealth and fame 3: one that succeeds,” meaning as long as one’s goal(s) is accomplished, it is deemed successful. We do not applaud ourselves enough on our day-to-day accomplishments which means we don’t consider ourselves to be successful the way we should. Everyday the universe and our higher being allow us to see-play-work-breathe another day is, in itself, successful.

In his newly written book, Act Like A Success, Think Like A Success, (2015) comedian Steve Harvey reminds readers that we must act and think like someone who succeeds and who wins everyday! When I was a little girl, my family rewarded me for making good grades. It was never my intention to make good grades to receive anything; I simply wanted to be one of the best students in my class. I was a teacher’s pet for most of my academic life. When my family noticed my accolades, they continued to water my gift with words of encouragement. My family’s emotional support along with my individual effort allowed me to think of myself as a success at a very young age. I have never thought of myself as a failure even when I made mistakes. I figured it was all apart of the process of experimentation.

As Mr. Harvey stated in his book, “Practice learning how to speak about success with experts who are fluent in the language of success. One of the best ways to learn a foreign language is to fully immerse yourself into the culture of the people who speak the language. The same principle applies to speaking the language of success,” (p.1, pg. 23). I learned to adapt the language of winning and continued to think positively because I had already been acting accordingly. Of course there were days when I felt and said those dreadful words, “I can’t,” and, what made it so ironic is that I was already in the process of doing it! One of those things that I felt I could not do was start my own business. Steve Harvey encouraged me to be like Nike, and “Just do it.” I started my business April 2013, the month of my biological birth, and that of my company.

We must continue to remind ourselves that we can do anything we want to do. Every day we awake is another opportunity to accomplish another goal, and to surround ourselves with people who will continue to remind us that success is how we think; and it starts the moment we open our eyes every morning.


Win at everything you do! Any goal, whether big or small is an opportunity to win. How do you win? By accomplishing each and every goal you set out to do.

“Inch by inch, everything’s a cinch.” -Steve Harvey



Works Cited

Harvey, Steve. (2014). Act Like A Success, Think Like A Success. Harper Collins Publishing, NY, New York: 23. Print.

Merriam-Webster Dictionary. (2004). Success. Merriam-Webster Inc, Springfield, Massachusetts: 714. Print




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